Fear of the known is what scares me the most
Published 2:32 pm Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Commentary by Danielle Pelkey
The North Jefferson News
Since I am still writing columns, that’s a pretty good sign that I have not yet given birth to my second child.
As I type this column, I am sitting at work on my due date and wondering if my daughter is ever going to make her appearance into this wonderful world.
Upon doctor’s orders, we will have a baby this week, but I would like to hold out until she is really ready to come. I hear that in the old days, women would actually just wait for the baby to come on their own. These days, celebrities get induced months early so as to save their skinny, beautiful bodies. I, obviously, have no skinny or beautiful body to save, so this thought never even entered my mind.
I like the thought of my water breaking in a public place and scaring all of the people around you. This doesn’t seem to be the case with my pregnancies, so it looks like induction may be the route taken by my children.
My newest daughter, Anna, has proven to be the source of much anxiety and fear. With my first daughter, I was so ignorant, I didn’t even realize half of the changes that would take place. But with the second daughter on the way, I am horrified at the thought of raising two children at one time, less than two years separating their ages. I understand why women look like total zombies for the first few years of their children’s lives and I sympathize with all of the women around the world who have twins. I can’t even imagine going that route.
With little to no sleep and with two instead of one, I will definitely keep all of our readers informed on how life will change in the Pelkey household.
Please don’t mistake my fear for anything other than just fear. I’m very excited about having another little bundle of joy at our house.
The Lord clearly stated that children are a blessing and I know this to be true. There was fear with the first one, too. The fear of the unknown was what I felt when pregnant with Raygan. The fear of the known is what I am fearing with Anna.
But outweighing all of these fears is the knowledge of being a mom. I know that beyond a shadow of a doubt, Anna will love me, no matter what. I know that when I walk through the doors of the baby sitter’s house, she will light up, just like Raygan does now. There is no better feeling in the world than to get neck hugs and mouth sugars from the little one who depends solely on you.
The kisses, smiles and when they make you laugh out loud are what keep you going. These are the things that I will get to enjoy twice as much by the end of the week.
So as I say good bye to being a mom of only one child and say hello to becoming a real mom, I want to leave you with this… Please pray for me — I’ll need it!